The experiences of children in their growing up phase are a key factor in building their personalities. The question is which experiences are useful and which are less useful for building a good personality? In my opinion during the infancy it’s important that the children experience good things as well as bad things. This means that the communication between parent and children should be as fluent as possible, and they might let them to experience almost all kind of situations.Children should learn by life experience not just by their parent´s speech. That is valid for good as well as bad experiences. Children should learn by doing. For example a child will never believe his parents, if they say: “Don’t go down this steeply hill by bike, it’s too dangerous.” But if the child goes down this hill by bike and it falls down and gets some abrasions, then it will always remind that some things are just too dangerous. Off course this kind of education is not always practicable. For example you can’t let a child try drugs only that it experiences how bad drugs are. But for more or less common situations it’s a practicable way of education.
Also it’s probably a better way not to make such strength forbids towards your children. As I said before, children should learn by doing. So in my opinion for example you should not make children instructions when they have to go to bed. The first times they probably go to bed very late, but after a few days, they will notice that it’s probably not the best for them to sleep less and they will change their behavior by their own.
All above mentioned ideas should be applied in the right measure, extreme poles wouldn’t work.
